It is all about me and guess what? It is all about you, too!

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It is all about me and guess what?  It is all about you, too!

By Sharon Coyle-Saeed


sharon 4 I was feeling completely overwhelmed with everything that was on my plate or that was about to be on my plate. With going into an advanced internship at graduate school, my newspaper job assignments increasing, classes starting, full time housewife expectations still alive and well, both children transitioning to new schools this year, support groups to admin, texts, phone calls, messages and emails to respond to from friends, family, and a new cardiology health discovery of a triglyceride level of 517 and a “suspicious old myocardial infarction” reading on my CT scan a few weeks ago, how does one digest all of that when you are missing your large intestine and the small bowels remaining are laden with adhesions?

sharonThe answer came to me when I visited my holistic chiropractor, Dr. Harry B. Schick. I frantically communicated my above concerns while waving my hands expressively like an Italian describing how to make gluten free eggplant rollatini. He calmly pushed his glasses back up the bridge of his nose and said, “Health and kids.”  I asked, “What?”  He clearly was not getting the intensity of my situation.  This man of many words, pun intended, repeated, “Health, kids and if those items are in check, finish your school.”
He role played scenarios. “So, Sharon there is a great class at the Open Center, want to go?”  I said, “Yes.” He said, “No, I would love to, but I am focusing on my health and kids right now.”  By George, I think I’ve got it.

sharon5Equipped with this focus, I tested the waters on several friends and family. Guess what? It was gosh awful! I was responded to with disappointment, sadness, anger, feelings got hurt and I felt terrible. However, something quickly happened.  Those who really cared and stuck around, did not take it personally(and it is not), they started to come around and say, “I am happy you are focusing on your health and kids.”

Something else happened. I started to focus on my health and kids. And I am no longer feeling so bogged down with all these choices and avenues. I am so clear and focused because my priorities are very streamlined. This is the first year since 2010 I am out of the hospital to attend not one, but both of my sons orientations and see them off to school. The smiles on their faces as they walk in with confidence knowing I have their back makes any disappointments from others fade.

sharon3Disappointments from others? Oh yes!  In the past few weeks since making this decision or carrying out this brilliant recommendation,  I have been called “selfish” too many times to count. I like to think of it as self-full!  I try to explain it in this way when those around shout, “It is NOT all about YOU!”

Well, actually it is not all about me.  It is about my health. If my health is not there, I will be in the hospital. I will not be able to wash my children’s clothes, help with their homework, make dinner, clean the home, be a present daughter, sister, friend, wife and support person. I will not be able to do anything. So, in actuality, it is NOT all about me, it is about keeping me healthy, so I can be there for YOU.

sharon2I love people. I love serving the community and helping others. I love family. Through self-care only can I even hope and pray to give back.  Filling one’s vessel with water is not selfish. Giving all of your water and having nothing left to give, only leaves us both dehydrated.

Today, I dropped my eldest son off at school, made pancakes for my youngest, cleaned my home, exercised on the bicycle, checked in with the online support group, had some great convos with friends and family, took my supplements/making sure I am staying hydrated, taking breaks when I need to,  and planning a trip to the Patriots vs. Giants tonight at Metlife Stadium. I have no idea about the rules of football. However, I do know that the memories made while being a present mommy for these two boys while they laugh at me as I ask who scored a homerun tonight will be priceless.



IMG_9124-240x300Sharon Coyle-Saeed was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 1990. She has three Associate degrees in Psychology, World Language, and Theater.  Sharon’s Bachelors is in Journalism & Mass Media with a Middle Eastern Studies minor from  Rutgers University. She is currently a graduate student of Clinical Social Work at Rutgers University with a focus on Aging and Health. Sharon just completed an internship at Robert Wood Johnson/The Steeplechase Cancer Center. She is a Reiki Master Practitioner, a freelance reporter for Gannett NJ, an IET Intermediate practitioner and holds certifications in EFT (Level One), Angel Card Reading, Angel Realm Reader and Aromatherapy (Stress Management, Essentials and First Aid). To help others is her sole and soul’s desire.






Featuring Health Blogs Day 19

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Trials & Tribulations of Being Type 1 Diabetic


“I have several complications from diabetes.  I write about my health because I struggled for a long time trying to figure out how to manage blood sugar while dealing with gastroparesis.  I wanted to be able to share the things that I have learned with others.  Although there are a lot of bloggers writing about diabetes, not very many of us are writing about our struggles with complications.”


Caregiving Cafe Blog


“I blog about caregivers taking care of themselves on every level: physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. The work that we do is so important, as caregivers are literally the lifeline for so many chronically ill, disabled or fragile seniors.  Caregivers experience joys and trials as they provide compassionate care for their loved ones.  Often, they are also raising a family and working.  They deserve recognition and support from family, friends and community.
My blog is unique because I provide links, resources, information and support that come from organizations involved in caregiving, wellness or healthcare.  I also present a caregiver’s honest perspective.  I provide an inside look into caregiving and encourage caregivers to reach out for assistance in order to avoid becoming patients themselves.  Reach out, don’t burnout!”


Conquer In Spite Of


“When I first got Lupus, I was very lonely. And the few blogs I could find on the topic didn’t feel relevant to what I was going through.
Conquer In Spite Of is a unique Lupus blog because I try to keep a positive attitude and I try not to let myself get into that “tragedy” mindset. I try to share the hope and the happiness and I try to find ways to relieve symptoms and live healthy and happy.”



My Brain Lesion and Me


“I blog about my health condition, as neurological conditions are often very misunderstood as is invisible illnesses in general. So I feel it is important to raise awareness of conditions such as these and the effects that it can have.  My  blog is unique as my condition is unique!! Not many people have the condition and the symptoms are not understood and so the blog raises awareness and also aims to educate the wider public.”





Featuring Health Blogs Day 16

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Crohnological Order


“I try to express how I live with Crohn’s Disease using humour and light hearted stories. I want people who already suffer, are new to the disease or have a loved one who suffers, to know there is light at the end of the colon! 😉 “


Susie’s Budget and Policy Corner


“I blog about policy and budget issue related to children, youth, and families in the District of Columbia. That includes health issues.”


UK Health Radio


“UK Health Radio, the health radio station for the UK and Europe, write about a wide range of  health, wellness, fitness, lifestyle, personal wellbeing, medical, alternative remedies, homeopathy, weight management, sports medicine, relationships, nutrition and regeneration topics.”


Free Falling… Young Crohn’s



Sunshine & Chaos


“I have an inner ear disorder with disequilibrium each day. The ENT doesn’t know specifically what the cause is and can’t give a specific diagnosis. This difficulty is what led me to start blogging. It has helped me to “meet” others in a similar situation as myself, to see what information I can learn from others and to help others, even if it’s only “You’re not alone”.”




Featuring Health Activist Blogs Day 15

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Detoured Fashion


For 9 years I sat silent and let my disease run my life.  Once I took control I decided I wanted to help others who may be in the spot I once sat.  My blog has a unique twist of providing fashion tips for ostomates 🙂


Pinups for Cancer


“I blog about health and healing through art. I started a fundraiser called pinups for cancer that has taught me more about Cancer and health than ever before. I want to share what I learn with people.”


Life Your Way!


“I write a health and humor blog where I do my best to find something to laugh about in each day, regardless of what’s going on with the ole bod. I try not to focus too much on one specific illness, since we’re all in this together.”


Lupus Interrupted


“I believe that what you put into life, you will get out of life. Your body, your mind, your soul all falter in negativism, all flourish in positivism.”




Featured Health Blogs Day 9

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Hope Whispers


“I started out just to keep my friends and family up to date.  But when I started to look for others with my illness, I couldn’t find anyone.  I started writing more about my journey, hoping someone out there with Budd Chiari would find me and see that they aren’t alone either.”


It was Lupus


“I blog about health because of my own experiences living with Lupus and several other chronic conditions.  I want others to be made aware of the things that I’ve discovered through trial and error, and research.  The support of the Chronically Awesome community online is amazing and I love being a part of it!”


Know Food Now


“Better nutrition comes from a behavior change you can make today. The intent is to provide information for readers to consciously build healthy eating behaviors that will keep calories in check and weight under control. Find tips for weight loss and behavior change for weight management. If you are an empty nester or single who is lazy about food preparation and who dines out, takes out, and can’t keep track of what you eat, this blog is for you.”




Featuring Health Blogs Day 8

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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The World Spins Madly On.

“I blog about my struggle to survive this life with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, and Dysautonomia.”



Inflamed and Untamed



The Power of Fitness for MS


“As a person with Multiple Sclerosis, I know first hand what it is doing to my body. I am aware how MS has changed me both physically and mentally. I am committed to making a difference in the lives of people with MS.”






Featuring Health Blogs Day 7

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Stick With It Sugar


“I blog about life with multiple kids that have Type 1 Diabetes. I blog because my brain will explode if I don’t and maybe someone with a newly diagnosed child will find something useful in my writing – even if its a giggle. What makes my blog unique? Not sure my blog is very unique – unfortunately there are so many kids and adults with diabetes that diabetes blogs are common (that is fortunate) – yet each offers readers unique experiences and/or stories of struggles that are similar to their own – therefore offering up a sense of normal.”


Debbie Norman


“I run several different blogs. I plan to split my posts across my blogs, but post at least one post per day. What makes my blog(s) unique? Well… I have multiple medical issues, my husband is a nurse, and our youngest child has autism. So I often see things from the point of view of the patient, the medical professional, AND the caregiver. I am stubborn and I fight hard for myself and others. I believe in remaining hopeful and keeping a positive attitude!”



Kamie in Wonderland


“I blog about my health because it is a way to release my fears, my pain, my hopes, my dreams, and my desires for the future.”





Featuring Health Blogs Day 4

In honor of National Health Blog Post Month – we’re featuring health blogs and the bloggers who write them!

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Thyroid Hope



“I have thyroid disease and for a while I was knocked sideways by it. Really and truly utterly lost and bereft, I couldn’t think straight, I was wiped out, my sense of self was utterly challenged, I had to give up my job. I had no idea really what was going on. It was very scary. Before I got ill I didn’t even know what a thyroid was. Now I know it’s a gland that can cause a LOT of problems when it goes wrong. Usually thyroid disease is easily treated but for a significant minority it isn’t. I felt it was important to raise awareness of thyroid disease and also to make doctors more aware of the issues patients face when they don’t respond quickly to the standard treatment. There’s a lot of information online about thyroid disease, lots of it not necessarily reliable. I  share links to medically approved information as well as writing about my journey with the illness and getting well again and I also write about a support group I have set up since starting to feel better, working with the British Thyroid Foundation. the blog gives me an outlet and lets me connect with others who may at different stages in their own journey with thyroid disease, or other chronic conditions. I know some doctors read it too and if I can make a difference to the treatment even just one other thyroid patient may receive as a result I am happy.”

Stroller Strides



“Our blog is about raising healthy moms so that they can raise healthy kids in a healthy world. We give women the “strength for motherhood”.”


Riza Written




Unique Health with Jamilia